90/10 Principle – By Stephen Covey

What is Principle?

10% made up of what happens to you… 90% of life decided how you react…

What does this mean?

We really have NO control over 10% of what has happen to us…

The other 90% is different…

You determine the other 90%.
How?
By your reaction…

You cannot control a red light… However you can control your reaction…

Do not let people fool You… You can control how you react.

Let use an Example…

You are having breakfast along with your family.
Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt…

You have NO control over what has just happened.
What happens next will be determined how you react.

You Curse… you harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table…
A short verbal battle follows…

You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your daughter too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to school.
She misses her Bus…

Your spouse must leave immediately for work…

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.

Because you are late you drive 40miles per hour in 30 mph speed limit zone.

After a 15 minute delay and throwing Rs.500.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minute late, you realize you forgot your briefcase.

Your day has started terrible.
As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home.

When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with you daughter and wife.

Why????

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad Day??

A) Did the Coffee cause it?
B) Did you Daughter cause it?
C) Did the police man cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is…. (D). Only you cause it…

You had no control over what happened with coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you.
Your daughter about to cry.

You gently say “It’s Okay Honey you just need to be more careful next time…”

Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt.
You grab your briefcase and you come back in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.

She turns and waves.
You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios.
Both started same.
Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you reacted.

You really have NO control over 10% of what happens in your life.

The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Now you know the 90/10 principal.

Apply it you will be amazed at the results.

The Result?

You will see it by yourself!

Millions of people suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and headaches.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It can change your life.

It only takes willpower to give ourselves permission to make the experience.

Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it’s like a Boomerang. It will come back to us.

If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first.
May be we will end with our hands empty, but our hearts will fill with love.

And those who love life, have that feeling marked in their hearts…

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